What is the Roka?
The Roka (also called Shagun) marks the official start of wedding planning. Both families meet, offer prayers, and exchange gifts as a blessing for the couple. It signifies mutual acceptance and commitment between the two families.
What Happens
- Families gather at the bride's home or a neutral venue
- Ardas (prayer) is performed
- Gifts (shagun) are exchanged — typically include sweets, dried fruits, clothing, and cash
- The groom's family presents gifts to the bride
- The bride's family presents gifts to the groom
- Sweets are shared and celebrations begin
Gift Etiquette
- - Traditional: Mithai (sweets), dry fruits, clothing fabric, jewelry
- - Modern: Gift cards, experiences, or contributions toward the wedding
- - In many Punjabi families, cash gifts are given in odd amounts (e.g., $101, $501) — a common cultural tradition
Planning Tips
- - Keep the guest list intimate — immediate family only (15-30 people)
- - Duration: 1-2 hours
- - Can be held at home, a restaurant, or a banquet hall
- - No specific dress code, but semi-formal is common
- - Photography is welcome